An excellent, plain-language introduction to a simple but often life-changing idea: self-acceptance. This is basically a modern term for the ancient idea: "Judge the sin, not the sinner."
What is the solution to low self-esteem? Surely it must be to increase your self-esteem, right? No.
Far better to do away with the whole idea of self-esteem and replace it with something much more satisfactory.
Self-esteem is based on the idea that you can judge ('esteem') EVERYTHING about you (your 'self') in a single word or phrase. Eg, I am "good" or a "success" or "useless" or "a failure".
In reality, your SELF is far too complicated to be judged like that, and it is potentially very harmful to do so. This is because your feelings of self worth will depend on how you perform. And as we are all fallible and no-one performs perfectly all the time, relying on self esteem will inevitably leave you feeling bad about your self when life's let-downs occur.
Your self consists of all your thoughts (good, bad, in-between), your behaviours, your habits, your body, your hopes, your skills, everything. This constitutes thousands of different things that make up YOU. That can't be accurately judged in one word or phrase.
To BE a "failure" you would have to fail ALL THE TIME at EVERYTHING. In reality, you fail at some things, you succeed at others, and you don't even bother to judge success or failure in most of the things you do. So why beat yourself up with the label "failure"? The only result is that you feel bad and are less likely to actually sort out the problem.
As this book shows, self acceptance is a far better solution.
Instead of judging your WHOLE SELF, you only judge your actions.