Whether female or male this important book can help many to improve their position in life. First, we all need to understand that once we turn eighteen years old, the time has ended to blame others for our failures. The time has come to be an adult and accept responsibility for our own destiny. Second, we must learn to "redirect" the voice in our heads toward a more positive vision and better habits. This well-written book will help many achieve these ends through sound advice and interesting dialog. "It's how ya think that makes ya swim or sink."