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The Future of Your Only Child: How to Guide Your Child to a Happy and Successful Life Paperback – 26 Mar 2008

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  • Paperback: 256 pages
  • Publisher: Palgrave Macmillan; 1 edition (26 Mar. 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1403984174
  • ISBN-13: 978-1403984173
  • Product Dimensions: 14.1 x 1.6 x 20.8 cm
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Bestsellers Rank: 313,066 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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A new look at effectively parenting your only child

About the Author

CARL E. PICKHARDT, Ph.D. is the author of popular parenting titles including Keys to Successful Stepfathering, The Everything® Parent's Child to the Strong-Willed Child, The Everything® Parent's Guide to Positive Discipline, and The Connected Father (Palgrave Macmillan). He lives in Austin, Texas, USA.

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Because they are prone to thinking ahead, being ever mindful of their son's or daughter's future, parents of single children have one paramount concern: "How will our only child turn out?" Read the first page
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This is a serious, scholarly, book, which makes you think about how to bring up your only child. It highlights all the good things from being an only-child but also points out forcibly, the down-sides and how the parents can moderate the down-sides. My only reservation about the book, and hence the 4-stars, is that it is distinctly American with some of the suggested parent/child dialogues distinctly un-european/British. I recommend this book to parents with only one child (or where the age difference is such that the second child is like an only child - say a 15 year age gap).
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Only Child Parent 5 Oct. 2010
By Patricia L. Cini - Published on Amazon.com
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I really wanted to like this book. The author has experience counselling only children and therefore, puts forward clearly and concisely what he believes to be the shaping effects as a result of only child parenting. I know he did not say that these shaping affects were exclusive to only children, but I think he writes as if they are or at least much more pronounced in only children.

I realize that I am biased because I am a parent of an only child (I am the youngest of three children). However, I think he brings a bias of being a father of four despite all of his counselling experience. I think it is clear what he thinks of only children as the negative tone comes across with the words he chooses to explain his positions. For example, on page 22 he writes that "unrelenting" focus of parental attention causes only children to feel "oppressively" self aware. As I kept reading this book and coming across more words/negative tones like these, I kept thinking "wow, he really does not like only children". Also, more times than not he cites comments from only children about their negative experiences of being an only child. I really kept telling myself not to be defensive and kept looking for the useful points because I do believe their are some unique challenges to raising an only child and being an only child. I am open to hearing about them. However, when he kept using words like "unrelenting" and "oppressive", I felt like the book was not overall objective enough for me.

On many points, I also found myself thinking that some of these shaping effects and behaviors are just as pronounced in children with siblings as a result of how they are parented (as a result of poor parenting). For example, often times I find my child has less toys than his friends with siblings.

He talks about how onlies tend to become an integral part of the marriage or at least think they are (I won't go into detail why he says this). He suggests that parents of onlies make a point of having conversations without the child, go on dates and make sure you have some personal time as individual adults too so the child understands that the marriage exists outside of him/her. These all great suggestions. However, I find it odd that this is put forward as something that is particularly important for parents of only children. I observe parents of multiple children alot and notice how much they hardly interact as couples because they are in divide and conquer mode looking after multiple kids. My husband and I have alot more opportunities to talk when we are with our son given we only have one to look after and can do it together throughout the day rather than the physical separation that often occurs between parents when they are in divide and conquer mode.

I definitely think there are some helpful points to consider in this book. But, as I am reading it, I have to really tell myself that it will be ok and my son won't turn out as bad as all of the points he makes and examples he provides. I am doing more than hoping here but working hard to be a good parent.
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The first child is also an only child 8 Mar. 2008
By DAW - Published on Amazon.com
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As the father of two, I found The Future of Your Only Child stunning - if too late for me. As Pickhardt notes early in the book, the first child is an only child for a time. And the consequences of this fact are not trivial. Had I possessed his book before my eldest had a sibling, would I have been a better father? Almost certainly. I would have become aware of things that I in fact ignored. For example, the fact that a parent can become too closely tied to a child, become too much the child's friend and confidant, for the child's own welfare. Would I also have become aware of how difficult it was for me to do otherwise? I think so, and I would probably have entered therapy much sooner. Although Pickardt doesn't really talk about how parental neuroses impact on the context parents create for children, this is implicit. When he suggests to parents that a particular set of behaviors might impact more healthily than another, the other set lies barely in the shadows. It is up to the reader to choose to perceive and deal with them. Pickhardt is confident than most parents will do so. I think he's probably right.
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Excellent and Accurate! 29 Sept. 2009
By Nick's Mom - Published on Amazon.com
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I'm an only child and have an only child. This book made me realize that my personality had a lot to due with being raised an only child. I would recommend this to anyone who has an only child or was an only child.
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Not that helpful 7 Jan. 2014
By Toddler Mom - Published on Amazon.com
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I found a lot of the information fairly obvious and not that helpful. For me personally, it did not seem to provide much insight on how to raise my only child differently than how I am currently raising her.
5 of 10 people found the following review helpful
Excellent book! 22 Mar. 2010
By S. Harper - Published on Amazon.com
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I wanted a book to give me some idea of what it might be like to raise an only child without being bias. This book does exactly that. It address potential challenges and resolutions.
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