Defence number 1...
Projection - you attribute your own stuff to another person...
Jerome Blackman has created a magnificent resource to help clinicians and anyone who is interested in the theory of defence mechanisms to look up certain behavioural patterns from a psychoanalytic perspective.
It has a very handy list in laymans terms at the very beginning of the book and I just chose to mention projection because we all do it - and quite often.
I enjoy looking at reasons why and different perspectives of the same thing - why?
Because I tend to tell myself one thing and then go and actually do something else...
Strange but true. This book sort of bridges the gap between being deep and academic and actually being useful.
Not that academic isn't useful - just that some books are a bit dry and quite dense and this book reads really well.